The girl who has been misunderstood.

Greetings, my dearest sisters around the world. I bring you greetings from the almighty father in heaven. Today I will be speaking about 3 categories of girls. The girl that has been misunderstood, the girl that has kept a secret for several years, and the girl that has sought approval from her father but yielded disappointment. I am writing to this girl that has been hurt before, I feel compelled within me to write this message because I haven’t rested ever since I learnt of these truths. Am obliged to think that there is something God wants the young women of today to remember.  It is my prayer that we receive the message with an open mind and think about what parts of our lives he wants us to change or improve. It has been almost a week that I have been heavily burdened with the task of writing to this girl and I pray that the Holy Spirit will give me the words so that I can speak right through her heart. Am still speaking about the girl that ever felt like it was almost over, or one who still feels that way today.  The one that puts on a face of courage to take her through the day, and waters her bed with tears during the night. I might not share the same experiences with you today, but believe me when I say I have had my own battles to fight. I once felt a pain that words could not come close to describing. And am here today, am glad that I was there yesterday because I would never have appreciated nor known what it felt like to be loved , to be blessed and to be chosen by a power so great which surpasses human comprehension. All of us are different. And what might particularly bother one girl might not necessarily pose a threat to the next girl. But most surprisingly we all share a common factor, and that is the sense of never feeling enough. Now when I think about all this I actually come to a conclusion that Pastor Perry wasn’t so far from the right answer when he summed it all up to being “tired”.

 Let me start with the girl that has been misunderstood, she is beautiful, smart and simply seeks for just that one person, who will say I know what you mean. She might have had a rocky relationship with her father and may be it could be that her father was never present in her life, and when he finally decides to show up. This girl has grown and she has reached that delicate age where anything and everything could easily make her happy or frustrate her. At that very point whatever the father says to her might make or break her. So when the father appears, strangely he wants to parent her and this girl doesn’t understand it. So they begin frustrating each other day in, day out. This girl only wishes that her father could understand her, whilst the father can’t seem to fathom why she won’t listen, he has no idea that she is frustrated from the inside. This girl is fragile and needs more of emotional support more than frustrating her with hurtful words. So she starts harboring all sorts of resentment within her. Today is the day that the lord has made for you to free yourself from all that hurt. A great writer once said: “It is one of life’s great arts to know what to forget and what to remember. People become collectors of grievances and this poisons their souls and drives the love from their hearts. Christ taught the great lesson of forgetting and forgiving. If you keep record of the wrongs committed against you, you are inclined to miss the noble, good and beautiful things in life”. So bring yourself to a point of forgiving yourself first and then begin forgiving each one of these people it could be your father or perhaps your family friend, your ex-boyfriend, uncle, cousin or whoever it is that hurt you deeply. Also have the courage to speak about it with some1 you really trust. I once was afraid of speaking about this one thing, but the moment I gathered enough courage and spoke to my mum about it, my heart became lighter and I felt a new peace sweeping over my face. A friend once told me that she had forgiven her father by writing it down in her diary. For a second I didn’t understand it because I didn’t know what she had to forgive that needed to be written down. Over a period of weeks I began seeing the change in her. She was beginning to be freed from all the things that kept her awake in the night. Being around her was a breath of fresh air because it was all about positive vibes.  And maybe you could borrow her method of forgiving her father by writing it down.

  The next young lady is one that has been seeking for approval and I know for a fact that there is so many of us in this category, me inclusive. At times you found yourself going to great lengths for someone you cherish it could have been your father, or a relationship, just to be appreciated for once, yet in a blink of an eye, these people we cherish might turn all our hard work into frustration. And this happens due to the power we have allowed them to have over us. This will hurt us  and it will almost destroy us and this is because often times we find our identity in things like our appearances, family, career, relationships and many other things that drive us to our breaking points because we want to see those things working out. Our brains won’t stop up until we fill that it is all perfect. And we tend to completely believe that one affects the other so when our relationships are not going well, so many other things will be affected in the process. So we freak out and get frustrated by all these things and the next person will obviously be affected by your frustration. My prayer today is that we stop finding our identity in all these things and find our identity in Christ Jesus who will save us from all these anxieties. I wish I could make you understand that you are loved, you are favored, you are valued, god calls us his precious treasures, you are beautiful and special, even the creation stories serve as testimony to this truth. We were created from Adams rib whilst he was created in dust... No shade, but if that doesn’t make you feel special enough, Then I don’t know what would. First take a minute and believe that you are Gods greatest possession and once you know that then you know that you are worth more than you ever settled for. Once you understand this then you will never allow yourself live through an abusive relationship, or let your partner frustrate you in the name of love, you will not live through domestic violence once you find your identity in the almighty. You are worthy and you are deserving of so much more.

 We all have to know that we cannot have it all together and it is okay not to have it all figured out simply because we are human beings. I pray that you don’t drive yourself crazy to achieve perfection. A friend of mine told me to seek for excellence in whatever I do but not perfection. Only Christ is perfect. The bible tells us that we are work in progress and perfection will only be achieved in heaven. We have to learn to get out of the way for God to help us. We always need god yet when his ready to come to our rescue, we still find ways to try and fix what we have previously failed a trillion times in the past. In my own and my friends experiences I learnt that we don’t struggle to call onto God to fix it, but we struggle to move out of his way so that he can fix it. Now I urge you my dearest sisters to develop a new trust in God today. How much more do we want god to show us that we can trust him with all of it?? How could he have risked his son to die for us on the cross and still not trust him?? I am encouraging you to take a risk today, let’s jump my dearest sisters; he will catch us on the other end.

  The girl that has kept a secret for so long is one that I also identify myself with. It could be anything, something that you could or can never speak about freely. At times you push it so far in your brain for a peace of mind. It could even be guilt that has held you captive from Gods love. There is nothing as frustrating as living with something that you could never speak about. But am telling you today that whatever it is, god loves you. His that kind of father who will pick you up from wherever, be it in your filthiness, he loves you he longs for you to experience his grace and once you understand that god is not like your earthly father who will only be proud of you when you bring home great grades, then most things will begin to make sense.  Come to him and experience something amazing that will leave you wondering? In Isaiah 43:4-5, God says you are precious and honored in my sight, and because he loves you, he will give people in exchange for  you, nations in exchange for your life, and then he says do not be afraid , for I am with you. How amazing is this?? May you soak in these words and experience the strength they carry. Now god takes it to another level in Jeremiah 33; 3 and he says call unto me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Dear heavenly father, I come before your holy presence with a desire that you will wipe the tears of every girl that I have spoken about this morning. I pray that you will meet each one of them at their point of need and that they will offload their burden on you. I beg you to give them courage and confidence to move in their destiny. May you make them understand that through Christ, they have been blessed with a great future that will be filled with peace and joy my father And that they shall develop a new hunger to serve and allow for your purpose for them to take its course.I pray this through Christ Jesus amen. So my dearest sisters, I have to love and leave you for now, until next time, may the almighty father be with you. I love you but remember god loves you more.